Is it just me?

[issenllo]

I do not appreciate being referred to as "Girls" (as in a couple of recent email saluations to me and another group member), even by people of my own sex. Men who do it to me = deathglare and scorn and quick rebuttal.

But it feels like I'm being uptight over nothing. "Girls", what. Surely there's nothing horrible about that. Despite the fact that I am not a 'girl'. Either call me by name or not at all (or "hi fellow group mates!" which is at least factual.)

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[vi]

I don't like being referred to as a "girl" either! Especially in professional situations; I find it condescending. If I'm in the mood I'll make a point of asking how old these "girls" are when men refer to "this girl I work with" or "this chick from work". They do this, even if the woman is 50 and/or outranks them. Or I'll ask if they refer to their male colleagues as boys - never.

[issenllo]

Yeah. But I feel it's harder to ask another 'girl' to stop. It's annoying. I like being a woman, not a girl.

[vi]

Yes, it's harder to ask other women to stop - sorry, I had assumed male colleagues or friends! I dunno what to do in social situations, haha. My workplace is predominantly women, and I like how they will start emails with something like "hi all/everyone/team".

[qem_chibati]

I agree - it feels really juvenile and belittling.

I find ladies more tolerable a term, but would much prefer group mates like you when that's the factual term. (Hey all, also works for me)

[issenllo]

I dunno about 'ladies' either. Yeah, I'm fussy. :p

'Lady' is not how I see myself. It always seems to conjure up an ideal of a person who has to behave in such and such a way - and it's a term used in opposition to 'gentlemen', and I'm not sure I'd like to put the men I know into boxes like that too.